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Put Your Mind At Ease With A Funeral Home

Posted by on Jul 23, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Put Your Mind At Ease With A Funeral Home

A death in the family is one of the hardest things in life to deal with. Whether or not the death was expected or unexpected does not really matter. It can still bring on stress and extreme emotion. When in this kind of emotional state, it can be very difficult to plan a funeral and make all of the corresponding arrangements. Fortunately, a funeral home can help take care of all of the arrangements so that you can spend more time grieving, reflecting on your loved one’s life, and being in the company of other loved ones. Below are some of the ways a funeral home can relieve your funeral planning stress. 1. File the Paperwork. When a loved one dies there is a lot of paperwork that needs to be taken care of. The last thing you will want to be doing is to filling out documents. The funeral home will be able to fill out and file the death certificate, permits and other paperwork. They will have experience filling these documents out and will be able to get it right for you the first time. They will also be able to help you get an obituary written and published. 2. Take Great Care. A good funeral home will know that the body of your loved one is revered and that it should be treated with the utmost respect. They will take great care as they transport the body, wash, embalm, dress, and do the hair and makeup. They know that this person was important to you and your family, and they will give the deceased the utmost respect. 3. Attend to Your Needs. A funeral home knows that death can come at any moment. They will be available to help you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year. The funeral home is around to serve you and if that means contacting clergy, additional friends and family, or others, they can do that. They will also help to make the funeral services beautiful and a time where your loved one’s life can be celebrated instead of grieving over their death. They will arrange flowers, music, speakers, viewings, and graveside ceremonies with your guidance. You can put your mind at ease and feel less stressed about the funeral and administrative tasks and focus more on being with loving family and friends during this hard time in your life. Contact a local funeral home, like Fluehr Funeral Home, for...

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The Dos And Don’ts Of Planning A Funeral

Posted by on Jun 1, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on The Dos And Don’ts Of Planning A Funeral

If you are in charge of planning a funeral, it can be a stressful and emotional time. It helps to know the do’s and don’ts of funeral planning, especially if this is your first time doing it. Here are some things to know about planning a funeral and making it a nice way to give your respects to your loved one who has passed: Do: Follow the deceased’s wishes as much as possible When planning a funeral, always consider the wishes of the person who has passed. The first thing you should do is find out if they had a will and if they included information about their funeral. They might have preferred to be cremated or may have even chosen a plot if they want to be buried. Some people pre-plan their own funeral and pay for the services, so that is something else to find out. If they didn’t include anything, start asking their closest friends and loved ones. They might have more information about what the person’s wishes were. Do: Get help if you need it Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Just because you are the spouse, best friend, or child of the deceased doesn’t mean the funeral should only be your responsibility. Get help from your parents, siblings, or cousins when planning their funeral. If you find that it is too emotional, having another person to handle some of the more difficult decisions can be helpful. For example, you can be in charge of planning the memorial service while your sister can plan you father’s burial and choose the casket. Don’t: Assume cremation is the “cheap” alternative While cremation is less expensive than a traditional burial after embalming the body, it should not be considered a cheap alternative or a less-quality alternative. If you are planning a funeral for someone and don’t have enough money to do a traditional burial, a cremation is a great option. It allows you to have ashes that can either be spread around their favorite spots or made into various gifts. You can have custom necklaces, pendants, or keychains made for family members by using some of the ashes in each custom piece. Don’t: Forget to include specific details on the invitation When you are preparing the invitations to the funeral or memorial service, make sure you are very clear with details about what is or isn’t expected. For example, if you would like to invite others to speak at the funeral, mention it in the invitation. You can also include details such as whether or not kids are welcome at the funeral or memorial, and what additional services might be include, such as a wake. To learn more, contact a company like Ahlgrim & Sons Funeral And Cremation Services LTD with any questions you...

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Keeping Your Adopted Child’s Culture In Their Life

Posted by on Mar 31, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

If you are working with an adoption agency to have an international child placed in your home, this can bring up many different factors. Even if a child is a baby or very young, you might want to think about ways to maintain parts of their culture within their new environment. Especially if a child is clearly a different ethnicity than you, questions will come up. Here are four things that you can do to incorporate your child’s home country into their new life. 1. Do Your Homework If there is a specific country that you are planning on adopting from, you need to make the time to learn what you can about the culture as prospective parents. Understanding more about your child’s culture and where they came from will enable you to answer questions that your child or others might have. Understanding your child’s roots will make this a part of your child’s story, not something to just wash over. 2. Use a Name from Your Child’s Country Especially if your child is older, changing their name to a more American name can be more devastating than you think. This might be the only thing that they have from their country, and it could be jarring to be in a new place and also have a new name. These days unique names are prevalent and your child will have less risk of being made fun of. 3. Plan a Trip Back to Your Child’s Country When your child is old enough, plan a trip back to their native land. You don’t necessarily have to go back to their town or seek out relatives, but reminding them of their past can make your child feel more whole and accepted. This can give them the courage to ask more questions about their past and feel okay with their unique situation as an internationally adopted child. 4. Holidays and Tradition If there are specific holidays or traditions from your child’s native country, you can assimilate these into your life as well. This is a fun way to bring new, special traditions into your family and respect where your adopted child is from. Make this fun and inclusive for the whole family. Of course, loving your child and assimilating them into your home environment is the most important thing to do. It is a good idea to try to also incorporate where they are from into some facet of your life as well. Having a piece of where your child came from can help them feel special and accepted....

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The Goals And Benefits Of Family Therapy

Posted by on Dec 8, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

If you’re considering family therapy, it’s important to keep in mind that taking advantage of this option doesn’t mean your family has something wrong with it. You’re not a bad parent and you don’t have a bad child. It simply means that you’re making an effort to introduce changes that will allow your family to listen to one another and have fun again. The objective is to make things run more smoothly for everyone in the family. The following will discuss some of the basic goals and benefits of family therapy, from a clinic like Fairbanks Counseling & Adoption. Goals of Family Therapy There are two primary goals that most therapists have when they’re bringing a family together for a series of therapy sessions. Establishing Support: An immediate goal of family therapy is to establish a feeling of support and understanding within the family system. Creating this feeling of support makes everyone less defensive and more open to the possibility of change. The therapist helps each family member to understand what matters to the other members of the family. Healing Relationships: Another important goal in family therapy is to try to heal damaged relationships within the family system. However close the relationship may have been between the parents, between the parents and the children or between the children, these relationships can be strained and severely damaged by ongoing conflict. Confronting any blame or resentment is the first step in addressing this damage and healing relationships. Benefits of Family Therapy Family therapy can benefit family members in several ways: The therapy identifies and focuses on any direct or hidden messages that the family members may be sending out to one another. Even well-intended messages can be responded to in a negative way. Family therapy will aid family members in eliminating ineffective messages and replacing them with more effective communication methods. Therapy sessions can also help educate all the family members about the struggles that each child and parent may be confronting. Particularly with children, these problems can include developmental struggles that family therapy can help all family members better appreciate and understand. Family therapy can help everyone in the family better express the emotions that may underlie many of their negative behaviors. By identifying and expressing these emotions in a less negative way, the family dynamic can become much more healthy. Often, during family therapy sessions, parents will come to realize that many of the issues that they have with their children actually go back to negative experiences they had in their own childhoods. By recognizing this, parents can break the cycle and have a better relationship with their own...

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5 Things You Might Not Know About Pregnancy

Posted by on Oct 6, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

When you get pregnant, you think that you know everything that’s going to happen to your body. The fact is that there are some things that happen during pregnancy that people don’t talk about much.  1. Your hair is going to grow. Everyone talks about how the hair on your head is going to grow quite a lot. What no one talks about is the fact that the hair on your face, your chest, and other areas is going to grow too. It’s possible to end up with facial hair when you are pregnant. Many pregnant women end up with a few hairs on their chests, as well as some hair growth in a line down their belly. Like the hair on your head, that hair growth usually goes away after you have delivered.  2. Pregnancy hurts. Yes, it’s a wonderful time in your life. However, that doesn’t mean that all the bodily changes aren’t going to hurt. The ligaments connected to your uterus will start to stretch, to make room for the baby to grow. Hormones flood your body that will cause your joints to feel looser, which is uncomfortable. As the baby gets bigger and starts moving, they are going to run out of space. Those movements can be exciting, but being kicked from the inside can be uncomfortable.  3. Pregnancy is exhausting. Well, that’s to be expected. But in your first trimester, you are going to have a hard time keeping your eyes open. Your body is undergoing an awful lot of changes, awfully quickly. That requires a lot of sleep to give your body the energy to make those changes. It gets better though. Generally, women feel very active in the second trimester.  4. Morning sickness isn’t just for the morning. Morning sickness has a very confusing name. It can happen at any time during the day. For most women, morning sickness ends during the first trimester. But there are some women who end up with morning sickness their whole pregnancy. Extreme morning sickness can become dangerous, causing women to lose weight, and need medical assistance.  5. Your sense of smell is going to get better. In fact, so much better that you might want to cut your nose off at times. Smells that you have liked before can be extremely unpleasant while you are pregnant. Your sense of smell may also change a bit. Things may smell differently while you are pregnant and go back to normal after you have had your baby. One of the theories behind why your sense of smell gets so much better is that you avoid things that might hurt the baby.  Click here for more info about...

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An Insider’s Look At Court Hearings And Foster Care

Posted by on Oct 2, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

As a foster parent, you tend to be in the “need to know” camp when it comes to information about the children in your care. Confidentiality laws can prohibit the sharing of information concerning the parents, their place in their treatment plan, and a clear picture of what is happening behind the scenes. Understanding the legal process related to foster care can help you navigate the journey and alleviate the fear of the unknown.  While each state will have their own legal timeframe, for the most part it will follow the process outlined below. Placement or Custody Hearing Some states hold this hearing prior to the removal of a child, in others it is the first hearing that is held after the removal of a child from their parents care and usually happens within 48 to 72 hours of removal (barring court holidays and other extreme circumstances).  At this hearing, a judge will review the evidence related to a child’s removal and ensure that all legalities have been followed. A child can be reunified with parents at this point, remanded into care, or placed with other family members.  If a child is kept in out of home care a dependency and neglect case (also called a child in need) will be opened. Adjudication Hearing During the adjudication hearing, the judge will again review the facts in the case and further evidence that has been collected in regards to the child’s placement. The judge will determine if there is just cause to continue out of home placement. If family or fictive kin have been identified, the judge may order home studies or suitability evaluations at this time. The due diligence search for familial relations and other existing relationships will start at this point and a review of whether the child falls under the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) will also be investigated.    Adjudication hearings usually occur within sixty to ninety days of the placement date.  Dispositional Hearing Dispositional hearings include the filing of parent/child treatment plans with the court. Case plans or treatment plans include what a parent must accomplish in order to regain custody of their child. This may include finding suitable housing, having gainful and reliable employment, attending parenting or substance abuse classes, enrolling in rehabilitation programs, domestic violence workshops, and other tasks.  Children will be given a case plan that includes steps to ensure they are being properly cared for and receiving any needed therapy. The judge will also outline a visitation schedule for parents, children, siblings, and possible extended family.  If children are older and there are underlying issues with their behavior, they may be ordered into therapy or counseling with their parents.  Dispositional hearings are usually scheduled within thirty to sixty days after adjudication. Review Hearings Review hearings are regularly scheduled to monitor parents’ progress on their case plan and review the child’s time in care. They normally occur every thirty to sixty days following dispositional hearings during the life of the case. If parents have completed their treatment plan, reunification can be ordered at a review hearing, or the parents may be given extensions for their plan as long as they are showing forward progress.    Permanency Hearing Permanency hearings include a review of the child’s original permanency goal, which is usually reunification....

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